Tuesday, September 25, 2012

How can somebody have this much stuff?

Enough is enough!  Which sweaters should I hold on to?  I'm not talking about my own.  I mean his.  I gave away most of his sweaters, shoes, coats, jackets, vests, PJs, slippers, belts, hats, gloves, boots and old electronics by the third year.  Now I'm holding on to just a few special items...

Every time I try to let one more garment go, paralysis sets in.   Can't I hold on to the option of seeing his clothes if I'm lonely?   They're not in a closet I use anyway.

I have to confess I'm eyeing that space for my own use. 

Someone said you have to create empty spaces in your closets, for someone else to enter.  Nice thought, probably true.  However, to me empty space is like an ugly bleeding gash that taunts me.  I'm alone.  Alone.

I'll deal with this later.  Close the door.  If and when the times comes I will make the space for somebody else; evidently not a moment sooner.

What do you think?  Keep those last few things of his or clear them out? 


  1. I've been coming to your site to read your uplifting thought-provoking blogs. I have also commented on your posts @widowsspeakup. It has helped me to gain momentum in moving forward. Now at the 4 yr mark and still adjusting to all the changes.

    I donated all my husband's clothes except 5 items that have signficant sentimental value. I recently thought about selling (boots) by consignment. Of course, I changed my mind. They don't take up that much closet space. Plus, your closet validates my decision to hang on to them! Thanks for sharing.

  2. I like your idea of keeping just five items of particular sentimental value. That sounds reasonable and quite sane. Thanks!