tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1511512682838809760.post2000247620658283040..comments2021-02-23T06:36:18.521-05:00Comments on Flawlessly Ordinary: Envy, Parallel Lives and Other EnticementsGowitheFlohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01842273685414939160noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1511512682838809760.post-79274652333449848852014-03-14T13:43:23.267-04:002014-03-14T13:43:23.267-04:00Maybe one of us is using the word 'envy' w...Maybe one of us is using the word 'envy' wrong. LOL Either way I'm glad it's motivating you. <br /><br />I wondered if that photo was one you took or grabbed off the internet. No, my bird is not like your red-bellied woodpecker---why they call it that, is a mystery. I get those all the time and they are one of my favorite birds along with the red-headed woodpeckers. If I ever get a good photo of my stranger I'm going to post it at a bird site.Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1511512682838809760.post-14539912243616740232014-03-14T08:33:50.216-04:002014-03-14T08:33:50.216-04:00Your opinion is the best advice I've ever gott...Your opinion is the best advice I've ever gotten... how'd you get so wise !? I especially love your last line - i.e., Gamble on yourself and go for it. <br /><br />Envy isn't all bad, if we own that it's within our power to have what we yearn for. Envy got me dating. It got me bicycling. It got me traveling. Now I'm 'using' it to build better social skills to make more friends. I have a way to go with that one... <br /><br />The bird I photographed at my suet feeder. Is this the bird you saw at your feeder? <br /><br /><br /><br />GowitheFlohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01842273685414939160noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1511512682838809760.post-65385329294991842162014-03-13T18:58:51.679-04:002014-03-13T18:58:51.679-04:00Married/single...I can't remember ever being e...Married/single...I can't remember ever being envious of either group. And I've done my sting at both, made the most of both at the time. Envy, to me, implies a lack of self confidence in myself, that I can't be as happy as someone else unless I can have what they have and/or the ability to set goals and obtain them. We used to know a couple who were high school sweethearts, raised three kids and every where they'd go they held hands, played kissy-face in public. No one would have guessed that after 25 years they'd get divorced because one of them turned out to be an in-the-closet gay. The point is we don't know what REALLY goes on in other people's lives so why waste the energy on envy? We could be using that energy on reaching our own goals. Like the woman who went to Norway, there is nothing but yourself stopping you from doing something similar. It's all about priorities and how much you're willing to gamble on yourself....in my opinion.Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.com