tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1511512682838809760.post1240519727366256798..comments2021-02-23T06:36:18.521-05:00Comments on Flawlessly Ordinary: Dancing on My Husband's Grave: Part Two - DatingGowitheFlohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01842273685414939160noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1511512682838809760.post-16573059361948421512014-02-11T21:57:25.706-05:002014-02-11T21:57:25.706-05:00Hi A. W.!
I guess I was the opposite - at 52, I c...Hi A. W.!<br /><br />I guess I was the opposite - at 52, I couldn't imagine NOT having a man to love - I just needed to find a recipient. It did take me more time than I expected to be emotionally ready to actually go looking, five years, in fact. Maybe if it all happened now, at 60, I could swallow being without the 'yang' to my 'yin'. <br /><br />Whichever makes sense to us is helpful, you know? It sets a course to pursue, and goodness knows a sense of purpose is its own reward. GowitheFlohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01842273685414939160noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1511512682838809760.post-74988739920495891112014-02-11T19:19:14.939-05:002014-02-11T19:19:14.939-05:00Oh gosh! I don't think I'm gonna go there...Oh gosh! I don't think I'm gonna go there. Almost 62 with one year widowhood. Never say never but ....The Awkward Widowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03729456066739275695noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1511512682838809760.post-1035276571450898012014-02-11T01:25:34.761-05:002014-02-11T01:25:34.761-05:00Yup, there is a big difference between being in lo...Yup, there is a big difference between being in love and loving. And I agree, you can only be in love with one man at a time. You can't be in love with a ghost. Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1511512682838809760.post-82412740011833030112014-02-10T21:47:02.139-05:002014-02-10T21:47:02.139-05:00Jean,
That's a good point you make. I can lo...Jean,<br /><br />That's a good point you make. I can love many, but be 'in love' with only one man at a time. A special gift we can give to a new partner is a clean slate. Having married a man whose first marriage lasted 18 years, I endured a sense of competition for his affection until I was assured I was indeed #1. <br /><br />I would say at this point I've let go of the goal to have everything I want!GowitheFlohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01842273685414939160noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1511512682838809760.post-6716265650425064372014-02-10T16:49:17.201-05:002014-02-10T16:49:17.201-05:00So many widows and widowers find a second chance a...So many widows and widowers find a second chance at love so if that's what you want, I say go for it. But I really question your premise that we actually have to "fall out of love" with our deceased mates to make that happen with a new person. I think love is so wide, so inclusive---a bottomless well---that the second-time-around love gets to sit along side of your first love. And if the second-time-around guy doesn't understand that a part of your heart will always have a sweet spot for your first love then he isn't the right person to be dating a widow. But that's just the opinion of a woman who can't imagine breaking in a new man in her live. LOL <br /><br />Good luck with your goal!Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.com